“Hell is being looked at,” said the famous existential philosopher Jean-Paul Sarte.  I went to Gettysburg College, and you guessed it, Gettysburg, Pennsylvania, for two reasons:  to play football and to wrestle.  A severe neck injury my first year ended both.  The next year I transferred to the University of Massachusetts.  Why?  I did not want to be looked at, looked at as the kid who got injured, looked at as the ex-athlete.  The experience of being looked at can be traumatic….